The 5-second rule

Assalamualaykum everybody!!!!

I’m sorry for the lack of uploads, I didn’t know I’d get this busy but anyway, I am still going to upload as often as I can. I also hope everyone is doing well and that you’re in a good space of mind 😊

Now on to today’s topic that I’ve been wanting to talk about for some time. I came across something on Instagram called ‘the 5-second rule’ or even known as the 10-second rule. You know those times your friend may have had a piece of food stuck in their teeth or maybe their makeup smudged?

Well, the 5-second rule applies to those very moments.

Basically the rule states:

If they can fix it in 5-10 seconds, you can point it out to them and they can fix it.

This rule implies that you shouldn’t point out the things people cannot fix about themselves immediately or at all. Don’t like their nose or eyebrows? Too bad. Don’t be an asshole and point it out. Think they need to lose weight or gain some? I don’t care what your reasoning may be for mentioning it but, they didn’t ask for your commentary.

I’m being a bit blunt (I apologise) and you, my fellow human, may think it’s a simple concept to understand but you’d be surprised how many people don’t understand that sometimes it’s best to shut up. It may just seem like this small little comment you’re making and you think of it as “advice” or you’re “just saying” but trust me, you have probably just annihilated that person’s self-esteem. The “no offence” you apply before or after you say the obviously offensive comment has zero effect.

These small comments that point out your physical features or what is deemed as flaws are not okay.

In these past few days, I’ve been hearing some of my friends say how they’ve been getting some negative comments, mostly on physical features and how it’s kind of upset them. And to be honest… that disappoints me.

I mean it is the 21stcentury people!!! Are we really going to put people down and make them feel like crap for not looking like they just dropped off of the cover of Vogue?

Who cares if you have scars? They’re reminders of the battles that you’ve survived. Do you have stretch marks? That’s perfectly normal! They show that you are living your life the way you want to. Someone picks on your weight? They shouldn’t matter. Because the best thing about being human is that we are all different. We come in different sizes and colours and we’re all beautiful.

Boys. You don’t need a six-pack and a sharp jawline to be considered good-looking. And girls, you don’t need a completely flat tummy and curves in the ‘right places’ in order to be seen as hot and beautiful.

Instead of working towards physical perfection, the world would be a better place if we all worked on internal perfection.

Focus on your personality because that is the one thing that can make you look ugly. Be the best version of you. Smile at people and make them laugh. Be there for people who you know or even think needs someone. Just be human. You’d be surprised how beautiful you’d seem after that.

And not only will you do good, but that good also makes you feel like a million bucks and it benefits others as well.

The world would be a much better place if we were all just nice to each other once in a while.

So next time you meet someone, pay them a compliment rather than pointing out their laugh, smile, eyebrows or anything that may stand out to you in some way. That quality is what makes a person you-nique 😊

See what I did there? I made a funny. But a valid one.

I really hope you guys enjoyed reading this and that it made you think just a little bit. I’d love to hear those thoughts in the comments below.

Remember, to sprinkle kindness wherever you go.

-zestasià

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